Nonsense dowry system

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the dowry system in the sub-continent is a wrath on muslims.
it has gone so far that the parents have started to save dowry for a daughter the time she is born.

these two incidents have made me wondered and i felt i would go and slap them left and right

1. my mom was telling a relative of ours called an another relative and said that some one in her relatives wanted to marry their daughter, she straight aaway first asked how much dowry are they willing to give, interestingly my aunt said we are not at all interested in such people

2. another close relative of mine has a single daughter, she is going to be married to a bit religious family, thought they havent asked anything, this brides mother is doing over acting, she is giving her many new things like laptop and all, creating a new extra bidah and burden to others. to show my discontent, i have decided to just meet the bride groom in function all, and come back, i am not going to eat or drink anything there and not even stay more than 10 minutes. first of all i am ashamed to even go there, but since they are my close relatives i have to go orelse i am afraid it would break tie ups

it really makes me wonder to what stage muslims have fallen to, instead of showing my silent discontent, i cant do anything, but inshaallah i feel my showing of this open discontent will surely bring change among others

i pray that Allah save us all from this system and give us ability to lead a simple and happy isamic way of life

ameen

yes and it makes me very sad when i see this so called rich people spending lacks of rupees for their marriages

even the so called deeni muslims are indulged in this barbaric activity

it is just like throwing away the girls from their houses by paying extra amount of money to their husbands, such marriages hardly turn out to have enjoyable life later and for every need the husband will turn to brides family, in another incident i heard even for the gas connection they took the money from brides family, i wonder to what level this beggars will still fall

like in second story, if such people change then it will be easier to change the others

my heart still says, i shoudnt attend that marriage, but they are very close relatives of mine

the only solution i found very useful for this and i am implementing practically is

1. youngsters should strongly oppose this system (especially males)
2. when ever the talk of dowry comes, use some harsh comments like
- he want to live on money of his wife
- he cant even spent on his wife, so he takes the amount from her father
- he is a beggar
- he is impotent etcc..
p.s: only males should use such language against other brothers who take, when we start using such comments, others who wish to take dowry will feel ashamed

3. brothers shouldnt accept any thing from brides even if they want to give happily
4. brothers should do marriage in masjid and distribute dates to all attendees and disperse
5. valima can be done by calling our direct uncles and aunts at home
6. we should stop spreading the excuse " it is permissible to do according to our standard". we should remember that others follow what we do and others may not have the standard as we have

and very important: sisters too should let their desire of wearing so much jewelry and costly costumes for marriages and they should also force their families and friends to cut down the unnecessary costs for marriages

p.s i have decided to end my marriage within 10,000(around 200 US dollars) from my side and zero rupees from brides side

and plz do dua that i achieve this goal

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Amazing things Allah has created

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these are the birds flying in the sky and this is a complete natural scene

utilizing time: inspirational story

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Since last night my young son has been unwell. When I got back from Work this evening I decided to take him to hospital despite my exhaustion.

There were many waiting; perhaps we will be delayed by more than an hour. I took my number and sat down in the waiting room. There were many faces, young and old, but all silent. Some brothers made use of the many booklets available in the waiting room. A young man grabbed my attention. He was reading a pocket-sized Qur`an continuously; not raising his head even once. At first I did not think much about him. However, after one hour of waiting my casual glances turned into a deep reflection about his lifestyle and how he utilizes his time. One hour of life wasted! Instead of making benefit of that hour, it was just a boring wait. I talked to him and he told me that most of our time is wasted without any benefit. These are days that go from our lives without being conscious of them or regretting their waste. He said that he started carrying the pocket-sized Qur`an around when a friend encouraged him to make full use of his time. He told me that in the time other people waste he gets to read much more of the Qur`an than he gets to read either at home or in the masjid. Moreover, besides the reward of reading the Qur`an, this habit saves him from boredom and stress.

My thoughts were interrupted by the nurse calling out my number; I went to the doctor. But I want to achieve something now. After I left the hospital I quickly went to the bookshop and bought a pocket-sized Qur`an. I decided to be mindful of how I spend the time.
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The way of tabligh jamath - Qadianis conversion

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The way of tabligh jamath- by Makki Al hijazi

Translation:

And see the strength of the Prophets, that is why the scholars say the one who is Da’i (who calls towards Islam), who does tabligh, who calls towards deen, then he also requires that strength that he should learn from the sunnah of Prophets, that they don’t argue

It is not that u get angry, otherwise u say to a man u r a human, u r not the prophet and u r telling lies. And the prophet is with same calmness, strength and they say “our Rab knows it; we are really the Prophets of Allah”

And also listen to this “ our duty is to clearly explain u about Allah, that’s it”. If u don’t want to accept, its ur wish.

That’s why the mufassireen has written, if the kafir gave a thought just on the dawah of Prophets they would understand everything. That they don’t take any income for that, they don’t take anything from us and still they are giving us a message, then why will such a man tell lies.

How many people are there in Europe, America and in the countries of Africa, and the far away countries, when the people of tabligh jamath reach them and when those people see them, they meet them, they ask them why u have come, ticket is urs, food is urs, sleeping material is urs and everything u require u bring urself. And when they say we have come with some message, we have brought the message of Islam. We want that all the our brothers and sisters who are human should be saved from hell, we have come for u . Then those people will startled.

In the same way once people of tabligh jamat went to a place, they saw a masjid, It is the habit of those poor people where ever they go they stay in masjid. And some people don’t allow them to stand in masjids, may Allah guide them, then they will search for the other places and make their own arrangements.

However when they went there, the masjid was of qadianis, because this fitna is spreading all over the world today may Allah forgive us. Yesterday I was reading this was the news from India that a woman sold her child for 4000 rupees. That mother who cant bear her poverty and sold her own child, give her 2 lakh rupees and make her qadiani, Christian what ever u like.

Now u see in countries like bosnia, chechan and where ever muslims are being killed in the name of war. And their small children, who are taking them, Christians, ngos,.
Christians and they even show sympathy, see these are small children and they will die. Have they come to show sympathy ?. but when they take a milk drinking children what do u think when he grows up he will become muslim.

You stay here(Mecca) , , it’s the greatness of Allah, u r doctor, u have good salaries, u have respect and u have vehicles and everything. In this period how many people did u deliver the message of islam.

In NGO’s there was a woman who came to Afghanistan and worked and she made 90,000 afghanis Christians. Did u ever thing what our women do sitting in the house. Ah yes, we have salaries, we work and then go and sleep. Bring food eat and sleep.

We are the slaves of our stomach, and we want all luxuries.

May Allah shower His blessings, what have Prophets gone through, say with emaan, u go to some one and u say to him I came to give u dawah of deen, and he says go u liar. What will u go through, bring this thing into ur mind. U will read quran and go way oh! They said Prophet was a liar.

I mean the Prophet of Allah, in ur country just say to a scholar that he is telling lies, one scholar or tell to a small political leader that he is telling lies, by evening ur clan will not be found in that area (5.39)

What will be the greatness of Prophets of Allah, that a person is standing in front of him and saying ur a liar and the Prophets are saying “ ok! Even if u don’t agree my Allah knows I am the Prophet”. And we have come to u to give a message. So when the people of tabligh jamath went to that masjid, the imam first didn’t accept but later he permitted. He said “ u can stay in my masjid but since we are qadianis and ur Ahle-sunnat and ur against our madhab, ur not going to do any tabligh, any dawah or read anything in my masjid, u can just stay just for a night, and this masjid was in around Canada. They said its ok.

The amir said see we cant give dawah here, in the morning where we go we will do dawah but in the tahajjuth cry and pray for this people infront of Allah. And do dua for this imam, see how nice person he is, he has atleast allowed to stay for a night. And now in tahajjuth all are crying and the imam sahib is seeing them by hiding and he thought why they are taking my name. why they are doing dua for me.

After three days they said , wassalamua'laikum we are going. The imam said, ok! If u don’t tell to anybody then I will also come with u for one or two days. He went with them. In the night he saw a dream and he was said “ till now u didn’t understand what is truth and what is false “ and he got up crying and immediately he read shahadah and became muslim. That one person then did work of deen among all the people who came to that masjid and the families around masjid who became qadianis and with the work of that one imam many families became again muslim

Youtube: Jamaat ut-Tabligh exposed - Part 2

Assalamua'laikum

i have been watching this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUbSvKFIwcc on youtube and felt really sorry for people who spread this false information.

Yes its true that there is a grave in masjid area, but not in place where we read salah. the grave was actually outside of masjid, but when the masjid was extended, they had to take that area inside in order to get extra place, as the roads cover from all sides as seen in picture.

but a room was built around the grave and no one can even imagine that grave is present there. in is completely fake video, bcoz when the building was built as shown in picture, by this time the grave was completely closed and i wonder from where did this guy got the picture of grave which is so open. though the room has a small window, which is always locked, it is closed from all four sides with no openings except a small window. and this room is completely backside to the salah area

its really unfortunate that people spread false information in order to get own benifits

May Allah forgive us for our sins